6 Ingredients of Good Friendships

1) Genuineness
    Friends "like" each other.
    There should be nothing fake about friendship. These healthy relationaships are rooted in love, the bonds of which are trustworthy

2) Non judgemental
    Friends love you just as you are!
   Always supportive, a friend's business is not to critize you, tell you what to do it, instead friends believe in each other, and have no hidden agendas

3) Loyalty
    Friends will always have your back!
   Loyalty solidifies such relationships. Rarely is there back-biting, gossiping, and spitefulness; true friends never gloat over your mistakes or snicker when you fall

4) Mutual respect
    It's all about respecting and appreaciating all the differences in character, personality, career paths, etc... and never wishing the other person was different. Most importantly, "changing" or "fixing" the other should never be on the agenda. A friend respects your thought even when they do not agree; and never thinks he/she is superior.

5) Open communication
    Talk to me about everything!
    Friends know how to listen and not make it all about "me". You can afford to let your guard down around friends and simply be yourself.

6) Forgive and forget
    I still love you....
    Friends sometimes make mistakes and even when they let us down, we are still able to forgive and wipe the slate clean... Knowing that the intention was not really to cause pain.

How to be your own best friend

How to be your own best friend :

1) Treat yourself highly valued and cared about

2) Always love yourself - no matter what!

3) Hold your own hand in tough and stressful times. Don't abandon yourself, or let yourself down

4) Only say positive

5) Understand your limitations, be patient with yourself. Accept that it takes time to master anything at all

6) Respect yourself and the effort that you're making to be a better person, and to change and to grow.

7) Be kind to yourself when you feel self-critical or you want to be judgemental and hard on yourself


Credited to : The Good Qoute - Instagram

New Job, New Experience

I could say that I am happy now. (Is it?) Haha.

So yeah, I just newly changed into a new job. On 6th of October I had resigned from Swagelok Malaysia. It's really sad as I really love my colleagues at there

But at the same time, I need to move forward and change into new environment.

By now, I am at Malacca, outstation for 2 weeks for my new job. I really hope that with this new beginning of my career, also bring me a new beginning in love life. LOL

I don't want to have some "too good too be true" love, but I am hoping for someone who is really love me for who I am and will be there for me whenever I need him to be.

I'm probably crazy but truly, I'm being crazy to those I loved the most.

So yeah, I deserve better so I don't mind to wait. If not then, I have no problem at all to be by myself.

Alone doesn't mean we are lonely. Alone mean you didn't settle for the less

Believe in yourself and love yourself for more. You are enough!

Miss you, but won't chase again

She misses you, but she won't chase you.

For the longest time, she did her best to make you happy.

For the longest time, she's done everything she could to show you, she deserve you.

But finally, she can't find it in herself to make an effort anymore.

She can't find it in herself to care as much anymore.

She can't find it herself to fight for you anymore.

Every mistake you've made has finally caught up to her.

Every flaw you carry has finally convinced her that you're not good for her.

Every heartbreak you put her through has finally pushed her far enough to not want to come back anymore.

Don't expect her to come running back to you like she always has.

Don't expect her to give in to her feelings for you like she always did in the past.

Don't expect her to settle for getting hurt over you like she always does all of this time.

For sure it's going to be hard to be alone, but she's rather be alone than to be with someone who makes her feel like she'd rather be alone.

For sure it's going to hurt to move on, but she'd rather to be hurt moving on than be hurt by someone who doesn't appreciate her presence.

Sure, it's going to be a challenge to love someone again, but she'd rather love someone again once she's ready than to love someone who takes her love granted

Credited to : Truth Slap

Be Silent

Be silent when the tide goes again you,

Be silent when people's words become swords,

Be silent when the tree of your life just isn't bearing fruit,

Be silent when your feeling and emotions start getting to you,

Be silent when other person just doesn't understand,

Be silent when life throws hurdles like raindrops on you,

Be silent the taste in your mouth is bitter with betrayal,

Be silent when jealousy creeps into your mind,

Be silent when your anger is on the verge of erupting,

Just keep your head down and work,

Just keep your ears shut and listen to the millions of voices inside your head,

Be blind to other people's hatred,

Because that day, your silence will be your strength,

Your results will be answer,

One day, the tree of your life will bear fruit,

Other people won't matter,

And the sweet taste of happiness will linger on in you,

Stay low. Speak out, when necessary.

Because at the end of the day,

Some people won't understand the depth between the 26 letters of the alphabet,

But it'll be a slap in their face,

When you glow with happiness,

Moreover, you'll realize that there is much more to life,

That just speaking randomly.

It's the power of listening,

Don't let them destroy you,

Cause stardust runs in your veins

And stars didn't just blow up,

To see you waste it all.

Make the stars proud.

Be silent and unbeatable

Credited to : Poem Porn @ IG

One day

One day, you'll just realized that you lose someone who will do everything for you.

Someone who sacrifices her own happiness just for you.

You will realized that you will never have someone who lost everything just for you.

You lose someone who swallows her pride just to talk with you.

You lose someone who accepted everything about you.

You'll never have someone like her who's patient, kind and loving.

Take care of her.

Appreciate her existence.

Love her deeply.

Be there for her because you might just wake up one day realizing that she's no longer around

And she's happy with someone else because you didn't treat her right

Credit to : Truth Slap

Unique

One day, many years from now when you realize what you've lost, you will search for me.

Perhaps you'll email me but there's be no reply;

Or maybe you'll call my number but it will have changed,

And when you give up trying to find me physically, you'll search for me emotionally.

You'll try to find someone else who will love you like I did,

Or make you laugh as much as I used to.

But you'll soon realize there's nobody else quite like me.

I was unique.

I was the one for you and you lost me.

And you will try so desperately to find traces of me in every soul you meet for the rest of your days.

But you will never ever find me

Credited to : Ranata Suzuki

Secret Letter

I can't delete his messages. No matter how upset I am with him, they will make me feel better on my worst days.

They still make me smile, laugh and shake my head when I remember how silly he is.

Every night I pray to God for him to come back and every morning I look at my phone waiting for his name to pop up ... even when I know it won't

Life Facts

1. Beauty catches the eyes

2. Character catches the heart

3. True love is a choice

4. Life is unfair to everyone

5. Once sided love can mentally destroy you

6. Self love is one of the best kind of love

7. Do your best because life is too short

8. Everything happens for a reason

9. Real friends are hard to find

10. Don't expect too much because you might get hurt in the end

Alone

I need to be alone for certain periods of time or I violate my own rhythm

By : Lee Krasner

Pretty Girl

Dear My Future Mr Partner of My Life, (Teeheee.....)


I have always wished to be the pretty girl


The type that everybody adore


The one that makes boys drool over her


But I realized


That I will never be the pretty girl


But I'll be the girl who can love you despite your flaws


I will never be the pretty girl who can make your head turn as I walk


But I'll be the girl who would turn around and go extra mile for you


And I hope you'll realize that I will never be the pretty girl


The girl of your dreams


Because I'm tired of faking


I'm done trying to be the pretty girl


Here I am wishing to the stars that you'll stay even if I'm just a mediocre type of girl


Credit to : Truth Slap @ FB

Take a break

Sometimes you just need a break. In a beautiful place. Alone. To figure out everything .....

Bora Bora, Wait for meeeeeeee :)

True Story

TRUE STORY 

F.A.M.I.L.Y

No family is perfect,


We argue, we fight.


We even stop talking to each other at times,


But in the end, family is family


The love is always be there

If She's Single .....

For now, she'd rather be single. 


There are so many positive things that comes with being single that she's learned to appreciate. 


If she's single, she won't be cheated on. 


If she's single, she won't be be disappointed. 


If she's single, she won't be taken for granted. 


If she's single, she won't be lied to. 


If she's single, she won't have expectations. 


If she's single, she won't be jealous. 


If she's single, she won't be made to look like a fool. 


If she's single, she won't be all up in her feelings. 


If she's single, she won't be vulnerable. 


If she's single, she won't lose herself. 


If she's single, she won't feel like she isn't good enough. 


If she's single, she won't be dependent on someone else to make her happy. 


If she's single, she won't be needing anybody to be there for her. 


If she's single, she won't have to deal with stupid arguments. 


If she's single, she won't have to be a part of pointless fighting. 


If she's single, she can't have her trust damaged. 


If she's single, she can't have her heart broken. 


There are times where it gets lonely, but then she remembers why she prefers staying single in the first place 


And that's because she loves herself enough to know what her worth is


And she is never settling for anything less than that ever again. So for now, she isn't in a rush to fall in love. 


When it's time, it's time.



Words by: Teddy Nguyen


P/S : I love these words. So inspiring. xoxo

Hello March

Hello March 2017... !!

Please be nice also. Teeheee

Reminder : To Every Girl Who Has Ever Lost Herself To A Toxic Man

<Reminder to myself> Teeheeeee

Some days I wonder if I will ever fully be myself again, and unfortunately, those days seem to be happening more than I would like to admit. Yes, relationships take a lot of work but relationships are supposed to be fun. When you are with the right person, relationships are simple. Nobody deserves to be in a relationship that they are afraid of their partner, yet that is more and more common these days. I am ashamed to admit that I stayed in a relationship that I was fearful of the man I was with.

All it took was one day, one day where I had enough courage to walk away. Walking away was the best decision I have ever made, I had let someone take so much from me, and if I didn’t have the courage to walk away I don’t know where I would be today.

I dated someone who made me lose my self-worth.

I lost my smile that once lit up any room I walked into because he couldn’t stand to see me happy. My smile was a bother to him. Once he charmed me into falling for his act he knew he had me hooked and he knew he could manipulate me. He knew he had me wrapped around his finger and he knew I wouldn’t leave. Because of him, I couldn’t even look at myself in the mirror anymore because he made me feel lower than I ever knew was possible.

I dated someone who made me lose my self-confidence

Because of him, I lost my self-confidence and care-free attitude. I was the girl that ‘didn’t deserve to be told compliments because I didn’t need them.’ Because of him, I felt worthless.

I dated someone I thought I knew.

I spent so much time convincing myself that he was going to go back to the man I had first met that I was completely oblivious to the fact that it was impossible. I so badly wanted to believe that it was all just a phase, but it wasn’t.


I dated someone who I didn’t even know who he was.

The man I first met wasn’t him; it was who he wanted to be perceived as. He turned out to be nothing but a liar and a cheater. I constantly made excuses for him and disregarded his wrongs. I wanted him to so badly be the man he pretended to be that I was blind. And because of this, I made our relationship picture perfect on Instagram. I thought if I made it look perfect then it would be perfect. Because of him, I lied to everyone that asked me how we were. I lied because I thought if I lied about it enough it would be the truth. I deliberately chose to ignore all the signs because all I wanted to do was see the best in him.

I dated someone who made me question everyone.

Because of him, I realized that maybe some people just don’t have any good. Because of him, I stopped being the person who saw the best in everyone. The person who gave everyone the benefit of the doubt.

I dated someone who was incapable of loving anyone but themselves.

I thought if I just brushed everything aside and loved him with everything in me that it would make him love me back. It took forever to understand but I now understand that it is impossible to make someone love you who only knows how to love themselves. Because of him, I felt alone while being physically next to him. I was dating a man who refused to kiss me and refused to look at me. Because of him, he made me feel unworthy. No matter how many times I had a huge smile on my face and was excited to see him, I was never worth looking at. I was dating someone who intentionally put me down so he could have the power. It was like it was a game to him; the worse he could make me feel, the better it made him feel.


I dated someone who I let manipulate me.

Every time he bailed on me or ignored my calls he somehow made me feel as if I deserved it. He made me feel as if I didn’t deserve to be spoken to. Every time I questioned him cheating, he somehow turned it around to me. It was my fault he hid things because ‘if I trusted him, he wouldn’t have to hide it.’ It was my fault he messaged girls on social media because, ‘if I trusted him, it shouldn’t matter who he talked to’. He manipulated me into believing I was the crazy one.

I was dating someone who was jealous of me.

Because of him, I stopped greeting everyone with a smile who I made eye contact with because he was jealous so many people knew me. Because of him, he made me feel guilty for being friendly. Because of him, ‘I was a whore’ for knowing so many people of the opposite gender. Because of him, I convinced myself I must really be a whore if he says I am a whore. Because of him, I stopped being my bubbly self in order to try to make him love me. Because of him, I thought if I made myself less of a person he would stop making me feel guilty for being me. Because of him, every time someone complimented me on something I didn’t want it to be true. Because of him, I wanted to be less of a person than I am.

I dated someone had to put others down to build himself up.

He was the guy who was always in a relationship. He was and still is the guy who jumps immediately into a new relationship because he can’t survive without manipulating someone. He is the guy who jumped into a new relationship 4 days after we had broken up. I truly feel sorry for the girl he is with (and the girls after her) because he will continue making girls feel the way he made me feel. He will never be happy with himself and the only way he knows how to try to fill the void within him is by putting others down.

I dated someone who made me stronger.

Because I left him, I feel even more empowered than ever. Because I left him, I remember what it’s like to be the girl who is always smiling but I remember the person who took that away. Because I left him, I got my corky sense of humor back. Because I left him I have met so many people that admire me for who I am and don’t knock me down for it. And never again will I tolerate someone who does. Because I left him, I know what it feels like to be truly loved.

Because it was in leaving him I learned to love myself again.

Late Celebration aka Valentine's Day

Happy me, happy tummy


Thank you to my colleagues, celebration on February baby, and not even forget about me, they did also for me. The January baby. Haha


Be yourself and work on yourself. The definitely right one will coming to you. Muahhh


Happy Valentine's Day peepsssss.

 

Old Me vs New Me

Today is TGIF!! Just want to share some of my old picture, which I was age of 24 if I'm not mistaken.


Its really embarrassing by the way, but I can say I am proud of myself for at least not to stay same like before. Hahaha!


How this had changed me a lot and to be honest, I'm myself can't believe that I could change into so called "new leaf"

2012

This picture was taken at Shah Alam. Err I think so. I was working at RHB on this time, and seeeeee. How fat I am. Hahahaha. The skin not so nice and I am pretty sure, any guys didn't want me to be their GF. Haha

2016

And this. This picture was on 2016. Been taken by my sister on last Raya Aidilfitri. Err I know I'm not pretty yet like other girl out there. But well, I still say that I am proud of myself. Lol.

Old me again. LOL

New me on 2016

 

My little boyfie

My Little Boyfie 

Aunty x Nephew

Muhammad Izz Rizqi bin Muhammad Izar

Mat Izz Botak Haha

My Angel and Boyfie

Left : My little angel ~ Qaseh Nuraina (She's at Heaven now)

Right : My little boyfie ~ Muhammad Izz Rizqi

No matter what happened, I will always my nephew and my late niece

Love both of them

Sweet 29 ~ 04011988 - 04012017

Yeah, I am so grateful for being alive and being sweet 29.

Thank you Allah, for giving me another year of life.

Happy New Year 2K17